The first time I kissed someone was on a dare. We were in grade 7, and all my friends had already had their first kiss. I really didn’t want to go to High School, never having been kissed. One day after class, my best friends, my crush and I were sitting outside on the field…

Ek haal my sunglasses af om vesieke te maak ek sien reg. Daai's mos Patty wat soe innie vlak branders rol. Nogals in ‘n zebra print bikini. Ek dog sy’s 'n never-nude. Sy’s gewoonlik toegekap. Sy’s altyd gelayered met jerseys, jackets en doekies, even oppie waremste dae. Patty moet sieke my gaze gevoelet wan sy…

The menstrual cycle (or period) is a beautiful stage of life that every woman experiences. It can be quite scary at first but you are not alone. I remember my first period. It was at the end of Grade 8. Early one morning at school I felt strange cramps in my stomach. I carried on…

An unplanned pregnancy can be very overwhelming, especially if you have no intention of keeping the pregnancy full-term. If you are afraid that you may be sitting with an unwanted pregnancy and in need of an abortion... Do not worry, you have come to the right place. This can be a scary time, you may…

Many of us watched with bated breath as Imane Khelif took part in the gold medal welterweight boxing match at the French Olympics – clinching victory on 9 August, South African Women’s Day, and making her supporters proud. The Algerian 25-year-old won her first gold medal by beating China’s Yang Liu, crying excitedly and thanking…

Growing up, my mother always made me wear my brightest and boldest outfit for Women’s Day. It was as important as our “Christmas outfits.” I didn’t fully grasp why until one sunny Women’s Day, sitting on the edge of my grandma’s cosy, well-worn couch, she shared her experiences of living in apartheid South Africa. I…

August marks Women’s Month in South Africa, a time where women and their successes, plights, heroism, and tragedies ascend into the limelight and are given additional salience. This Women’s Month, I propose uniting two forces; fems (feminists) and trads (traditionalists). Fems are individuals who advocate for women's rights on the basis of equality of the…

You know how, in the fairy tale, Cinderella’s wicked stepmother makes her cook, clean and take care of everything around the house? My foster mother did the opposite, she hated having anyone else with her in the kitchen, so she never taught me how to cook. Besides doing the dishes every now and again and…

Adultification (noun): the process or fact of treating or considering a child as if they are an adult, usually in a way that is wrong or harmful. For Black women, this concept is not just a word; it’s a lived experience that begins well before they reach adulthood. Black women have a rite of passage…

The "man or bear" TikTok argument gained traction after the pop culture account Screenshot HQ posted a video in April asking eight women if they'd rather be stuck in a forest with a man or a bear. Seven women chose "bear," and one chose "man." Some women explained that they would choose the bear since…

Hey, let's talk about a tricky line we're all navigating: Walking the tightrope between embracing our sexuality and being sexualized? It’s tricky. Why? Because patriarchal norms - fuelled by everyone, yes, even women - often dictate how we show up in the world. Let’s dive into this battleground. I recently stumbled upon a post by…

Life doesn't come with an instruction manual; it comes with a mother. The love of a mother is enduring. Without the nurturing figures we regard as mothers—biological mothers, grandmothers, godmothers, sisters, aunts, and guardians—where and who would we be? They provide us with support, stability, and encouragement and help us realise our greatest potential at…

The opening lines, "Her gums are bleeding, her eyes are swollen. Her sheer silk, knee-length negligee is torn and stained with lots of blood," immediately drew me into Black Widow Society by Angel Makholwa, it all felt familiar - we encounter stories like this every day in 2024. As we celebrate World Book Day, I…

Have you ever found yourself calling someone a narcissist in a fit of frustration or anger? I assure you, you probably have. This can be as casual as an online retort towards a troll or banter with a friend. It is easy to do this because we've normalised the use and misuse so much that…

Scroll through your social feed, and there it is – conversation everywhere about Ozempic. It feels like the whole world is hunting for the fastest way to lose weight, and Ozempic has suddenly become the spotlight. But the big question remains – is Ozempic the answer we've been looking for, or is it a bit…

Have you ever jumped on the Gautrain and wondered why the ticket feels like it's eating your wallet? Especially during the holiday rush, when "Mind the Gap" becomes more than just a safety reminder—it's a glimpse into the wider gap we're navigating: the gender wealth gap in South Africa. Forking out R3,595 for a Gautrain…

Oh, beauty pageants, those glittering spectacles of glamour that have strutted through the decades, often getting side-eye for celebrating a pretty narrow slice of beauty - all sparkle, no substance, right? Wrong! It's time to toss that old script out the window because pageants like Miss South Africa are flipping the narrative, mixing beauty with…

"During my second year, I heard about the shortages of black females in tech, and it was always a wow factor when people heard what I was studying. I suppose it was surprising at the time to have any interest, being black and female," Nozipho, a 28-year-old Information Security Specialist, shares her empowering journey within…

I recently left a job I loved because of workplace bullying. I was the digital editor of a glossy magazine, and within three months, I managed to turn their stagnant online platforms into thriving and marketable spaces. I broke every record imaginable, the money was great, and I enjoyed my work. It’s crazy for me…

Hot Girl Summer: “Feeling confident in who you are and having fun and looking good while doing it" (Dictionary.com) Newsflash! You don't have to break your bank to have a hot girl summer. Welcome to Girl Talk's guide to a fabulous, budget-friendly Hot Girl Summer! Remember, it's all about feeling confident and having fun without…

A year back, I lost my dad. It's hard to explain, but it felt like my whole world flipped upside down, like something inside my brain just... changed. The pain hit me like a tidal wave, getting stronger each moment—from seeing him for the last time to facing the blur of his funeral. I kept…

"The realisation of his absence left me resentful. I always felt he prioritised his marriage and his wife's feelings more than mine."- That's the tough truth about fathers in South Africa. In the lives of South Africa's youth, a growing void is being experienced - the absence of fathers. This societal wound, as revealed by…

In a world that consumes the minutiae of lives on social media, Jada Pinkett-Smith's candid revelations from her book were met with backlash sharp enough to slice through the double standards that celebrate vulnerability in some but condemn it in others—especially when it comes to Black women like her. Why is that? In this blog,…

About one in every ten women who are able to have children have endometriosis, according to the World Health Organization. This is a condition in which the tissue that usually lines your uterus grows in other parts of your body. Every month, when you have your period, the tissue inside your uterus breaks apart, and…

Breast cancer is not just something that happens to older women. Many women under the age of 40 are diagnosed with breast cancer, says the Cancer Society of South Africa. As a South African woman, you have a lifetime risk of one in 27 of developing breast cancer and it is the most common cancer…

The other day, I accompanied my friend Joyce to the salon to have her hair braided into cornrows. Midway through the process, she stopped the hairdresser and asked for a hand-held mirror. I assumed it was because she was sitting in a dim shadowy corner, and she wanted to see how far along they still…

If you were told you had won R100,000 what would you do? Did you just come up with a lot of grand, exciting ideas? Maybe you thought about buying a 2-storey house, or the latest car, throwing a big party, or taking your friends on an adventure and travelling? Or, if you could do just…

A letter to a teen girl about sex. This letter was inspired by comments on the articles on sex on masturbation earlier in the year. You can read them here and here. Dear Fazeeah, Don’t be ashamed. At your age, it’s normal to ask questions about sex. Is it wrong? Is it only for married…

Are you a “Lazy girl”? And no, I don’t mean the occasional not wanting to tidy around the house, I’m talking about the current TikTok job trend. Gabrielle Judge, in 2023, coined the term “Lazy girl job” to describe more of a work-life balance. The idea is to find a job that doesn’t require too…

A visit to the gynaecologist isn’t usually a highlight for anyone, but it is part of every woman’s journey through life – and your sexual health is extremely important.  A gynaecologist is a doctor who is a specialist in the field of everything that has to do with your reproductive system: your uterus, ovaries, vagina,…

Periods have long been associated with a range of physical and emotional changes, but recent conversations have shed light on another symptom: period brain fog. Many individuals report experiencing mental cloudiness, forgetfulness, and difficulty concentrating during their menstrual cycle. As we embark on a journey to unravel the mysteries of this intriguing cognitive rollercoaster, we…

They say beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and by that they mean that the beholder - the one who looks - is who determines whether the object of his/ her gaze can be considered as attractive.  This leaves the person being viewed decidedly at the mercy of those surrounding them. Of course,…

I'm not big on make-up, and I'm not very good at either, but I do know the very basics and I feel the basics is all I need to know. I would like to highlight how you really don't have to break the bank to achieve minimal makeup, with a few essentials. How I learnt…