We all know how it feels to lose family members, friends and partners either through death of they walk out of your life leaving you DAMAGED.When you reach the stage where you have to let go don’t hesitate, don’t look back and stop wishing things could be different. The mere fact that they are letting you go means that you shouldn’t beg, people dont let go of people they love, they hold on to their loved ones and cherish them. Remember that holding on hurts more than letting go. When you hold on you become bitter and your heart turns black and you start wanting revenge. That’s one thing you should never do.is to plot against the people who left you. You might start experiencing curtain feelings towards them after the separation. Those are called the five grieving stages.
The first stage is : 1.DENIAL.
When we lose someone or something important to us, it is natural to reject the idea that it could be true. In turn, we may isolate ourselves to avoid reminders of the truth. Others who wish to comfort us may only make us hurt more while we are still coming to terms with the loss.
When it is no longer possible to live in denial, it is common to become frustrated and angry. We might feel like something extremely unfair has happened to us and wonder what we did to deserve it
In this stage, we might somehow seek to change the circumstances of the situation causing their grief. For example, a religious person whose loved one is dying might seek to negotiate with God to keep the person alive. Bargaining may help the grieving person cope by allowing them a sense of control in the face of helplessness.
In this stage, we feel the full weight of our sadness over the loss. Feeling extremely down in the wake of a loss is normal; however, it is important to be aware that clinical depression is different from grief, and they are treated differently by mental health professionals. See “The Blurred Line Between Grief and Depression” for more information.
Eventually, the grieving person may come to terms with their loss. Accepting a loss does not necessarily mean the person is no longer grieving. In fact, many grief experts say that grief can continue for a lifetime after a major loss, and coping with the loss only becomes easier over time. Waves of grief can be triggered by reminders of the loss long after it has happened and long after the person has “accepted” it. These waves may also trigger a crossover into any of the other four stages of grief.
Now i wish that everyone going through pain of losing a loved one gets to heal & allow themselves to go through all these stages & eventually ACCEPT the situation as it is. Wishing healing upon the reader. I wish you find PEACE, ACCEPTANCE & LET GO OF THE PAST. Friends, loved ones & partners will leave anytime in your life i hope you deal with the loss in a dignified way. I know we all wish to go back in time because we miss what the past was but in reality what’s happened cannot be undone, LET GO, SET YOURSELF FREE & allow yourself to GRIEVE.