PRIDE

Pride has many definitions, such as: Proud, contempt, arrogant, dignified, insolent, haughty, selfish, self worth etc… But there’s only one PRIDE that most people relate, and suffer from; that’s the one which revolves around a relationship (sometimes friendship) or ‘something’ (business or clothes).

We tend to not understand where and when pride should be considered because we feel that its the only means to use when angry, frustrated, ashamed or just ignorant to someone or something (not knowing that pride is the main reason alot of things in your life ain’t working out). Firstly, people think that just because of their qualifications they deserve more, and that particular businesses (ShopRite, Checkers, Engen, PickNPay etc) are not worthy of their time. Now they use pride as a substitution of being ashamed or “what will people say” then just accepting reality. One cant just graduate and think all will be well. Everything has a start, just like a ladder. Eventually It’ll all ‘work out’, just like in the gym (You can’t be a bodybuilder overnight). You have to start somewhere, and that’s at the bottom no matter how shameful it looks.

And there are certain people who use pride in instances of the certain clothes ‘they should wear’. You get people wasting money they don’t have, or drowing themselves in debt because they ashamed. Clothes don’t define a person (unlike Skhothane, prostitute or your work/school/sports attire). It only means it’s what you can afford … maybe at the moment. Secondly we as people are so presumptuous that we feel it’s someone else’s job to beg, start a conversation, comfort, respect, love more, or satisfying you in bed…. and everything else that states the fact of you doing nothing (Who you? There’s like billions of people in the world for you to feel that special). Yes, it’s the person’s job to do all that (except the last one), especially if they made you angry and all. But I mean you ain’t a mime: so meet them halfway.

I don’t understand why people in relationships use pride as something to show they don’t “care” cause it’s actually the opposite.”Don’t talk to me” actually means “call me and beg for forgiveness”. “I don’t want/love you anymore” means “I’m angry, and I just need time to cool off”. And through all that, not realising the person begging is reading “between the lines” (irrespective of how inaccurate they are), and also learning to let go. And you end up saying “they never loved me in the first place”.

Pride has no time frame, but certain people use it because it’s fun seeing other people doing something they want cause they know they don’t wanna lose them (not knowing that how your guy got you, is the same way they can get someone else or your girl, by just a click of her finger can get another guy).

But all in all, I feel pride doesn’t take you anywhere but merely brings lots of pain to oneself and regret.