I’ve always been one of those guys who like debates. So after seeing the topic about fashion fails on my sister blog, Just Trendi, a bunch of ideas started going through my head and I was excited to bring the topic up again.

First of all, are these fashion fails as bad as the fashion shows on TV and the fashion magazines in the supermarket, make us believe?

In other words, is it really a big deal that, as a man, you failed to match your belt to your shoes? Do you really need to avoid fastening the last button on you three-button blazer, for example? And should you, as a girl, really have to worry that much about your lipstick and your nail polish?

I mean, personally I’ve been the guy who picks and chooses what fashion items I like and how to wear those fashion items. My one rule is: avoid excessively expensive clothing and crazy colours and designs; keep to stuff that complements my personality.

What is my personality, you ask?

Well, I’m the guy who grew up not being able to afford any fashion trends, but now that I can afford those trends, I honestly just prefer to wear what feels and looks good on me even if it’s different from all those trends. I like simple things such as getting a chiskop instead of fancy haircuts, buying a black or brown belt instead of a red, green or grey one. I’m not the guy who stands in the mirror and compares himself to all the guys in fashion or celebrity magazines. Instead, the mirror reminds me that I’m Sicelo Kula, not DJ Sbu, Brad Pitt or David Beckham, and that I need to be true to all the things that are good about me.

The problem with fussing about fashion is that we may lose sight of who we are as people and all the things that matter in our lives. We may find ourselves waking up every morning and instead of focussing on things such as ambition, honesty, loyalty, kindness and respect, we worry about what people will say when they see that our socks or belts don’t match with our shoes.

Having said all of the above, I must also add, though, that I’m not saying you shouldn’t put effort into how you look. You MUST. What I’m saying is that YOU SHOULDN’T OBSSESS.

Have you ever wondered why a lot of people who fuss about fashion and nothing else, are called shallow people? The answer is simple: too much of a good thing is bad. So even though fashion is good, because it helps to make you look good and feel even better about yourself, it can be bad if you obsess about it, because you may start to neglect other important things in life. So my belief is: care about fashion, love fashion, but DON’T be a fashion stalker.

As always, though, your thoughts are also important to me so tell me what you think about fashion obsessions.

Are they healthy?

#ChatBack: Is it okay to worry so much about fashion that you don’t care about anything else in life, but your outfits?

Or is fashion more important than your relationships with the people around you?

Drop a comment for me on Facebook also. Let’s hear what you think.