Life… Lewe… Impilo… Bophelo… Botselo
In life, there are somethings that break our hearts, but the main thing is, we can’t change those things that break our hearts. There are moments in our lives where we feel like hope is gone and the only thing that’s on our minds is giving up. Giving up can be easier if we turn it into giving it all. Life hasn’t ever been good to me, but you can’t see that and do you know why? I learned appreciation at a very young age, it is my second nature.
Have you ever felt like you were a burden in people’s lives by just being alive? Well, trust me the feeling is mutual. They say, “You can never predict life, but you can surely prepare for the future.” Yes, I’m not a veteran, but surely if you could step in my shoes you would swear I am one. I’ve been wrong too many times – I guess being right takes too long.
No one knows what you go through, but they all notice your mistakes. Flaws keep me going. Mistakes must be made to show that you’re at least trying at something, rather make mistakes than fake perfection. Yes, everyone wants perfection, but one thing I’m sure of is that you can’t be perfect without making any mistakes. Flaws make you stronger with that hope of when you are trying at something again, you will do it better. However, in some cases there’s no other chance of doing it again; it’s either you do it now or never. I have been through a lot, but I don’t let that be my downfall.
Life has let me down so many times, but I don’t watch it, I try by all means to overcome what I can. Overcoming challenges is what makes life more presentable. Yes, we see life in different ways – we all have different visions of life. Pain makes us stronger so that we can continue to flourish, to imagine life without pain. Failure is always there to show us we are not trying hard enough; we should try a bit harder. Some things in life are worth it – even though they give us hardships, we all know that nothing worth having comes easy.
It’s true when they say, “Nothing can come between you and your destiny”, but the question is: will destiny ever come? Yes, it will come because we have that hope. Hope is the best weapon we can have for ourselves. Making mistakes does not make you a bad person, but not admitting that you have made a mistake makes you one. In the game of life we all want to achieve something that will be beneficial to our lives. We may need support from our loved ones, but if they are not willing to support us, we have no other way but to do it ourselves with or without their support.
You must learn to be your own mentor because the people you are depending on may not always be there for you. Some people may be a little bit jealous, but jealousy is insignificant if you know that you are on the right track. You know you are on the right path when people start to hate. Give them a good reason to hate you more. Hate is the last thing we need, but there’s nothing we can do about it. We are different, but on the same mission of fighting for success. Everything has its own time, it might not be now, but always have faith that it will happen at a later stage.
Patience is what we must all be friends with. You owe no one an explanation for being true to yourself. Some things in life will break your heart into unfixed pieces; you will feel like the world has turned its back against you. The most unpredictable things hurt you the most. Life can be unfair to a point whereby you just wish you could die right away. There are moments where you feel like enough is enough; you can’t stand the complications of life, but complications are here to stay even though they can be on our shoulders at times.
Some people tend to think if they are doing certain things for you they own you, they forget that what goes around comes back around – in this, life we all need each other. What I can say never let them get to you because life goes on with or without. It’s funny how life goes; you can be happy this moment and the next you sad. Yeah, that’s simply life for you. You can’t be good to everyone; no matter how good you are they will always point out your mistakes. You know life’s not good for you at all when you start wishing for death. Life has given you a thousand reasons to wish for death.
It is true when they say, “you can create your own happiness,” you can’t allow your happiness to be in someone else’s hands. I don’t want to lie to you, but you will never find peace if you expect a lot from people. Expectations always hurt. Your presence will be felt when you are no longer alive. It is true when they say, “you will never know the true value of something until you lose it.” We must always value all the things we have before they turn to the things we ‘had’. Be responsible for your own happiness.
Do what you know you are going to benefit from it. If it feels right then it is. You can’t always force people to understand you. You must always have your own back; you can’t rely on other people. Never beg to be loved or to be appreciated. Never fight for a spot in other people’s life. Those who love you, will appreciate you no matter the circumstances. We all have things that we want to achieve; you can’t blame other people for not fulfilling your dreams. You must know that you’re growing up when you start seeing a different vision of life. Yes, people will always be there to judge you, whether you are doing good or bad. Don’t mind their dirty minds give them something better to discuss. Distance yourself from negative people; negativity is the last thing you need.
Positive minds build each other up. Being positive keeps you going, you won’t even recognise the negativity. It’s better to be surrounded by people who are on the same mission as you. I mean, never settle for less, and always aim high. Every morning when you wake up, tell yourself, “I can do it” no matter how impossible it may seem never let negative thoughts spoil your positive mind. Sometimes we do things wanting to prove a point to certain people, forgetting that it will be you who will be affected. I mean, you can’t expect people to be on your side all the time.
Be grateful for the gift of life because somewhere someone is fighting for theirs. Yes, sometimes life shows us flames we can’t put out, but we can’t always expect things to go our way. We all know who is responsible for our lives and that’s why we will never stop thanking him. If you expect others to do things for you never forget to expect disappointment, I mean, you can’t expect people to think what you think .If you want something and you know you can’t afford it, work for it even if it takes all of you. At the end of the day you’re going to win – you can’t be a loser forever. Your time will come and you will shine brighter than a diamond.
Never forget those who were there for you when no one else was. Be careful of people who are happy for your sadness. Some people are indeed good pretenders. Never trust too much because anyone is capable of anything. Always leave a room for disappointment in everything you do, especially when someone is helping. Some people will never understand the true value of anything. When you value something you will do everything to get. Life has to knock you down a few times in order to get what you want, you need to work hard.
Not everything goes according to how we plan it, we need to accept whatever comes our way and hope that one day we will shine. Always hope for the best because the best is yet to come, don’t give up on your faith. In order to win you must avoid being a coward; winners are risk takers and also opportunity crabbers. Be your own mentor, motivation and inspiration then others will follow your example. As you grow up you will realise the only backup you have, is you, no one will have your back more than you will and can. In the journey of life there are so many things others expect of you.
The worst thing you can do is to expect everything to be easy. If it’s easy, then it’s not worth it. Whatever situation you come across, you must know it’s not the end of the world. Things may seem a bit difficult some days, but never give up, that’s how life is meant to be. Yes it’s true, our parents know what’s good for us, but can’t always expect us to do whatever they expect of us because everyone has his/her own hearts desires. Do you think it’s a good idea to follow what your parents want of you? They have experienced life in a different way they surely they don’t want us to go through what they went through. Sometimes it feels as if though they are blocking our blessings by doing that. Keep moving no matter what life has in store for you – forward is the only way one should go no matter how difficult the road may seem. At the end of the day you’ll be proud of yourself, no one will do it for you except you.
Imagine the feeling of clapping hands for yourself; trust me it is the most rewarding experience you’ll cherish forever. Things may seem impossible, but trust me you will make the impossible possible. Every time you come across a situation, good or bad, show that situation you are stronger than it. Life may be unfair at times, you can study hard only to find non impressive results it is okay as long as achievement is there then there is nothing to worry about. Sometimes life is like a test you didn’t study for. It’s high time we accept that if you want something you will have to work for it.
They saying, “whatever that doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger” is true but the question is how do you know if you’re strong enough? You know you are strong when you learned a lesson, lessons are meant to be learned because you can’t learn without a lesson. Life has different lessons it’s up to us whether those lessons lift us up or bring us down. Rather let them lift you up than drag you down. Being up is the best place to be in, especially when you learn certain lessons about life you can go live according to.
When you’ve learned something in life, it’s going to build you up; something that keeps you going, something that pushes you to do better, something that motivates you and something that you can’t go a day without. Once you do it for yourself, you’ll become a better person and proud of yourself. Life is meant to be lived so be careful how you live yours.
Do you take life as it comes or do you fall apart sometimes?