I grew up without a father.
I always wondered why it had to be me. I was a sweet, polite, and gentle child when I was growing up. So I never understood why he left me.
I was living with my mom and my half-brother in a two roomed house. Life was good back then, but things changed when I realised there was something missing in my life; fatherly love.
I started asking my mom about him.
Why were they not living together like other families? But she kept quiet and said nothing. Time went by and suddenly there was a father figure in our home. But he obviously was not my real father. He was my mom’s boyfriend.
I was not happy having him around. But I had to accept him as he was the one who was providing food for us since my mom was unemployed.
One night I woke up from sleep and heard a sound. There were two beds in the bedroom, mine and my mom’s. So I thought I would check things around and make sure she was fine.
I saw something like an elephant on my mom’s bed. And this thing kept moving up and down. And suddenly there was a funny sound coming from there. I stood there surprised and I cried myself to sleep that night.
I didn’t know why I was crying but I had the feeling that something bad had happened. I was too young to know or understand but I knew I didn’t like it. The event that happened that night kept appearing in my mind but I wouldn’t dare ask my mom about it.
I struggled to forget that night even after five years. It kept happening when my mom got new a boyfriend.
It was when I was a teenager in matric that I knew what the elephant in my mother’s bed was.
Tell us: Did you ever get the talk about sex with your parents? At what age will you teach your kids about sex?