Yes, guys and girls: “Know thyself!”

My ex-girlfriend was in the middle of breaking up with me. She believed that she had changed and that we weren’t good together anymore. I tried to convince her that we could still work and that she was just the same.

“But we’re so good together babe, you’re still the sweet, innocent girl I fell in love with.”

“Know thyself, Sicelo, before you start acting as if you know me. I’ve changed. People change.” The words suddenly popped out of her mouth.

Long story short: we broke up.

I learnt something important that day. I learnt about a question that each and every one of us should be asking ourselves at some early point in our lives.

Do we really know ourselves?

For example, if you stood in front of a mirror and asked yourself this question, would you have an answer?

Would you know what makes you happy, sad, scared or even angry?

Would you know what you’re good at and what you suck at?

Basically, are you the kind of person that has to find out who they are after being told by others, or do you have the answers?

I’m not saying you have to know every corner of your soul. It’s a lifelong journey.

Then of course there’s that other small fact that people change. People grow and change.

You may be fifteen or eighteen now. In fact, you may even be twenty-four. The numbers don’t matter. What matters is who you were four or five years ago. Try and remember.

You’ve probably changed, right?

Now ask yourself why you changed. Ask yourself how that change happened.

Only good things can come from having to answer these questions. I promise.

You can find out that you used to drink a lot of coke four years ago, but now you’ve upgraded to whisky and beer. You can find out that you always used to sit on the bench of your netball or soccer team, but now you’ve been upgraded to the team’s star player. You may even find out that you started out by watching people kissing on TV, but now you’ve upgraded to a boyfriend or girlfriend that you kiss every five minutes. Basically, things have changed for you.

But now the question to ask is: are those changes good for you?

That’s the whole point!

The questions should never stop.

Imagine if life was a war. You’d want to know yourself better than your enemies, right? In fact, you’d probably want to know what each and every one of your strengths and weaknesses are, right?

Well, that’s it. That’s my point!

But I’m thinking, though, that you’re probably wondering where the answers are supposed to come from if there are so many questions being asked.

Well, it’s simple.

You are the one who has to answer them.

But you don’t have to do it alone.

Asking for advice is one of the best things you can do when you face these many questions. That’s why it’s important to have friends who want the best for you.

But at the end of the day, you have to decide what’s good and what’s not.

And so, it’s time now, I guess, for you to have your say.

In other words, do you know yourself?

And if you think you do, tell us what some of your strengths and weaknesses are.

#ChatBack: Tell us about what makes you happy, sad, scared or even angry?

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ff0000*Master\’Chao* is the winner of this last week’s blog post! Well done.

I think I know myself very well and there has never been a contradiction with my self-concept and my peers’ opinions about myself. Well my strengths are all the things that I feel comfortable when doing and they are exactly what makes me happy….one of the weaknesses which I see as an advantage in my life is that I don’t have the ability to leave anything I do Unfinished- which I think it is a good weakness because it will help me when I have joined the working force to keep up with my To-do List Of work…In addition to that weakness I panic a lot when am under pressure and Often make decisions in a decisive manner/or state and hate myself later for making such decisions.I am not patient when it comes to queing and waiting.In addition to my strengths, I am good at working with people, am a great leader, at this moment I feel happy when am doing good in my studies-meaning that am gettng closer to my dreams,and sad and angry when its the other way round/ being denied a chance to shine