Best friends are meant to be your sister from another mother, but what happens when you invest a lot more than you should?

Well, I had a best friend (or at least I thought I did) and my other friend, and trust you me I loved them both equally but they didn’t like each other or so I thought and I didn’t want either of them thinking I was spending more time with the other so I introduced them to each other and to my surprise they clicked. Now the vibe is good and I’m spending time with both my friends but things changed and they switched up on me just like that.

Just two weeks into it I’m sidelined, kicked to the curve. Every plan we made together as a trio would be carried out without me, they were both party animals and I’d go out occasionally. I’d suggest that we go out for lunch but they’d do it together without me. So now my best friend cut off all communications with me, whenever I would call she would not answer or when I’d text, I’d get late replies or sometimes no replies at all.

To my surprise, I’d see videos and pictures of them doing what we planned to do together and it would hurt me so bad but I grew a thick skin and wouldn’t get bothered by it anymore.

Now this is where it gets real, a month or two I’m no longer seeing videos and photos of them and I’m so unbothered about it but my other friend starts texting me to check up on me and I gave her the same treatment I got from her the past few weeks. Now the girl is asking me questions about my friendship with my best friend and that’s when I got to realize that my best friend of 10 years is two-faced, different personality for every person. I got to realize how unimportant I was to Her and how she’s always treated me.

You see, I’d invest so much into something and never see the bad side but only the good side and get to realise later on that there’s also that other side to it, the ugly one. The girl is now tryna get back with me and starts dishing out information that my best friend had shared with her. It turns out my best friend doesn’t really like me a lot, I’m not the type of a friend one should keep around, I’m selfish and I don’t do sh*t for her. And that took me back to the days when her mom kicked her out and how I had to use my last few hundreds to come home from college and help her find a place and buy her a few essentials. It took me back to when she had an abortion and I was up late with her because she couldn’t sleep. It took me back to when she’d call me after midnight so she could vent about her cheating and emotionally abusive boyfriend but “I haven’t done anything for her”.

I’ve done a lot of things for my best friend but in her eyes I did nothing and that’s okay because I don’t regret anything I did. I mean why would I? It came from my heart, now this other friend is telling me how my best friend tried to get her to sleep with this other gent so he could buy them drinks and I was not surprised ‘Cause she tried that with me but she didn’t succeed. So with this friend she failed and she realised that she won’t be able to get her to do what she wants so she tells this gent to take my other friend to a motel and that my other friend will not refuse him there. He does as he’s told but my friend realises and she calls for help ( i don’t know what truly went down I was not present).

To cut the long story, when you realise that you are the only one keeping the friendship afloat and you feel like you are giving so much and that it is one-sided, step back, stop calling first, stop texting first. And you’ll see just how much you mean to that person. So my best friend and I are no longer close like before, we don’t really talk a lot, we don’t check up on each other. I’m not as “clingy” as I was before. She blocked the other friend and they don’t talk to each other anymore

I guess all I’m tryna say is, guard your heart and always put yourself first.