There comes a time in your life where your parents expect you to be ready to give them grandchildren you know the ole: “Are you going to have a baby when you’re 40?”

We all go through that I guess now I am the one going down that road with my parents breathing down my neck to have a baby again, AGAIN!

“Mom I already have a son isn’t that enough?”

As Africans, having babies is our way of life you know it gets to a point where you’re not seen as being man enough if you don’t have multiple kids running around kicking and screaming. Ok, not actually screaming but I can say I am not really a baby person though I have a son that my mom recognises as a starter to the main course and I still haven’t had the dessert yet and guess what, the dessert comes with drinks on the side.

“But I want a grand daughter now,” said my mom supported by a smile from my girlfriend.

Is there anyone on my side? Yes my side, the anti-baby side?

I believe one should have children only when finances allow it, not because of age or pressure from parents or peers.

“I can’t afford to have another baby at the moment,” I said.

That right there should have been enough to stop this conversation but it’s like I was fuelling up the fire by just breathing.

“Do you think those long legs of yours were raised by money or love and support from me and your father?” she said. As I looked in my father’s direction in search of hope that he’ll back me up as usual.

My father has always backed me up when am under attack by the lionesses of this family though I had a little bit of doubt he’ll support me this time because he has a huge undying love for children.

“I think he should have another baby when he’s ready I mean waking up at 3am to feed a baby is no joke,” said my father.

YES! He’s on my side, at least someone understands me.

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