I heard them talking about confidence and I paid attention and listened attentively. Their discussion was started by a girl who was going through her Facebook page. While scrolling down, there was a picture of a chubby girl who was wearing a short tight mini skirt and a crop top that showed her belly fat, she had cellulite and stretch marks.

The picture had many comments some were good while some were criticising which is something normal.

Okay fine what bothered me was the caption that said this girl is confident. Whoah wait a moment I’m not against the word confident but do they understand the word confident? No I don’t think so. I literally don’t understand why do people think whatever you wanna wear makes you confident.

For a minute questions came to my mind. What if it was a skinny girl wearing all those clothes would they call it confidence? If it was a thick big girl were they going to caption it that? Are they using this word because they feel like stretch marks are disgusting? Cellulite is unattractive? My mind was filled with many questions at the same time and I couldn’t answer all this I went blank.

From my side of view I don’t think it’s necessary for us to call chubby girls confident when they wear whatever they want. If she’s comfortable why not? Her body, her choice. I personally feel like we should define confidence as a power a certain person has in order to stand up for her/ him self.

Let’s define self love as someone who loves herself and has accepted his/her insecurities. This goes out to all ladies with their body shapes let all women out there wear anything that makes them feel good and embrace their bodies.

Our society is so fault finding:

“No she’s too skinny for that “

“it would look beautiful on a thick girl “

“it’s too short for her thighs she doesn’t value her body”.

Civilly and politely y’all honestly have to mind your business.

We didn’t sleep a wink because of the

“you too fat you have to gym” we had sleepless nights because of the

“you too skinny you have to eat ” words from our people not realising that they are breaking us apart .

Body shaming is real. These days us being skinny or fat it’s like we have chosen to be like this while it’s not true but we have nothing to do with it all we have to do is to love and accept our body shapes. Let us love our bodies without being afraid of your comments .#All body types matter