The following evening, after MaNgqobela has left for work, Khalipha walks a short distance to Mr Ngxaka’s car, and they drive to someplace near the community soccer ground where there are many trees.
MR NGXAKA: Well, it is good to see you. I didn’t think you would come.
KHALIPHA: I didn’t have anything else to do.
MR NGXAKA: OK. I bought you some chocolate and chips.
KHALIPHA: Thank you. How was your day?
MR NGXAKA: I was asleep the whole day. Woke up with a terrible hangover, took a shower, went to the stores, and now I am here.
KHALIPHA: Nice. If you don’t mind me asking again, why are you not mourning your father?
MR NGXAKA: I cannot mourn someone I did not know.
KHALIPHA: But you loved him. He was still your father.
MR NGXAKA: Yeah, well, that is the sad part.
KHALIPHA: Are you at least going to go to his funeral?
MR NGXAKA: Yes. Maybe, maybe not.
KHALIPHA: You were on the verge of tears because of the man. You should at least go to his funeral.
MR NGXAKA: I was not hurt, I was angry. I still am.
KHALIPHA: That is not healthy.
MR NGXAKA: Can we drop this topic?
KHALIPHA: OK, fine. Why are we here, Ngxaka?
MR NGXAKA: I want to spend time with you.
KHALIPHA: You said you weren’t into me.
MR NGXAKA: You said the same.
KHALIPHA: I didn’t ask for a meetup.
MR NGXAKA: But you still came. Look, I know what I said. But I really want to get to know you…outside of class.
KHALIPHA: That would be wrong.
MR NGXAKA: I know, but no one would ever find out. I will give you time to think about it. I will not coerce you into doing anything you don’t want, and if this is going to make you lose focus and be uncomfortable in class, I can bear the pain of only seeing you in class.
KHALAPHI: I…don’t know what to say.
MR NGXAKA: Say you will think about it, nkosazana.
KHALIPHA: Why me and not any other learner?
MR NGXAKA: This is not about the fact that you are a learner. I like you for your beauty and brains, your sense of humour, your beautiful soul…You are a gorgeous woman, and any of these boys who have dated you were lucky.
KHALIPHA: I…have never dated. (looking down and fiddling with her hands)
MR NGXAKA: That is…great.
KHALIPHA: You think I am lame.
MR NGXAKA: No, I think you are wise for that. As I said, you are more mature than the girls your age, including your friend.
KHALIPHA: (laughing) Alizwa is wiser than I am. She just likes having fun.
MR NGXAKA: What do you like?
KHALIPHA: Staying in, reading, watching TV…things like that.
MR NGXAKA: Wow, you know, watching you in class, I was intrigued by how your mind functions. I am happy to say I am even more intrigued now.
KHALIPHA: Come on, none of my friends think that I am interesting, let alone ‘intriguing’.
MR NGXAKA: (laughing) Why are you making air quotes? Anyways, I think your friends are the boring ones.
KHALIPHA: (yawning) Thank you.
MR NGXAKA: Well, I guess this is my cue to take you back home.
KHALIPHA: (sounding a bit disappointed) Oh. I guess.
MR NGXAKA: Tell you what? I will come to see you again tomorrow.
KHALIPHA: Mom will be home since it’s Sunday.
MR NGXAKA: OK then, I…will see you in class on Monday. Is that OK? We will be texting, so you won’t miss me too much.
KHALIPHA: (looking puzzled) Who said I was going to miss you in the first place?
MR NGXAKA: (laughing) Come on, I know you will. I will, too. In fact, I do already. But for now…let me take you home.
Tell us: Can you recognise any manipulation tactics in this scene? For example, Mr Ngxaka says he “can bear the pain of only seeing [Khalipa] in class”, which simultaneously compliments her (he likes her so much it hurts not to see her — she must be special!) and blames her for causing him harm. See if you can spot any other ways Mr Ngxaka tries to make Khalipha do what he wants.