The issue of trust is always a problem in a relationship and lies always end up causing break ups. A friend of mine named Siphesihle Ngqangweni wrote a very interesting poem which is based on trust and lies. The poem goes as follows:
Don’t believe them lies! – by Siphesihle Ngqangweni
Is it just me or are the people of this world undergoing an identity crisis?
It seems as though the concept of individuality has been flushed down the drain and that the idea of “fitting in” is brought up like resurrected sewerage.
What makes it worse is that people have taken a liking to its taste.
Don’t believe ’em lies
Lying is the very essence of his being and he has been at it since the earth’s foundation was formed.
Who is he? Belial, Beelzebub, Lucifer, Satan.
Don’t think for one moment that his tactics are blatantly obvious. NO, he’s not stupid.
He can make poo look like chocolate flavoured ice-cream
He can make your enemy come across as your best friend
He will use your most treasured possession to get a noose around your neck.
The media is not just a means of mass communication; it is a tool that he uses to indoctrinate the world.
What better platform is there that enables him to spread his lies like wild fire?
The most absurd and immoral ideas, deeds, connotations and habits have become accepted and quite frankly, commonplace.
Drinking is cool. Getting wasted is fun. Smoking ganga is tops.
Having big boobs makes you a woman. Having a large penis makes you a man.
Slimmer girls are prettier girls. Buff guys are the ‘it’ guys.
Premarital sex is normal.
This, THIS is what the world has come to!
Girls, don’t believe ’em lies
You do not need to change the way you look to make guys believe that you’re actually worth looking at.
If you need to use your body as leverage to keep him then he’s not worth you.
Following fashion trends doesn’t show that you’re “in with it”
It simply shows that you don’t have your own sense of style and need to make up for it by being a slave to a fleeting popular trend.
Guys, don’t believe ’em lies
Being a man doesn’t mean being loose
Being a man doesn’t mean being a drunkard
No self-respecting woman wants to be intimate with a walking ashtray or egotist
Real men make use of the word ‘no’ and in turn understand it when it is directed at them.
People, don’t buy into his lies.
Because if you do, he will play you like a pawn in his plan to make you perverse-after all-you will be his puppet.
So here’s some truth for you
You are a one of a kind, custom-designed masterpiece.
So please, don’t make yourself into a low-priced imitation of someone else.
Love yourselves, take care of yourselves and don’t believe ’em lies
I always enjoy reading things which are constructive on Facebook. I once read the following statement which was made by a friend of mine Mthetheli Noah on Facebook and I related to what he wrote. His statement went as follows:
*Do you know pain? Do you understand loneliness? Have you ever been so crowded by loneliness that it rings so loud in the ears of your soul the pain becomes worse than a heartbreak? Do you know the pain of not being understood? Not being accepted? Do you know pain? Do you understand loneliness? If/when you do then you have the right to ridicule my love of being loved and mostly my love for loving unconditionally.
There is nothing cool about having 5 girlfriends and telling them that you love them meanwhile you do not mean what you utter instead you are misleading them. I believe that if you truly love someone then there is no space for another individual. That is why I prefer going for personality than looks because if you go for looks, there are many beautiful women out there and you can get many temptations whereas if you go for personality, not many women possess the qualities that your girlfriend has.
That’s what makes her so special to you and you end up having this fear of losing her. If you go for looks even if you lose her you can just meet any girl who is beautiful within minutes. Personality and character is very important and that’s what separated the girl that stole my heart from the other girls that I had met before her. I took this has a learning curve and I won’t question what ever happened. Sometimes bad things happen for a good reason so I just accept what happened, move on and thank God for everything that I have in my life. Am not afraid of failure in life. If it was not meant to be then we just have to accept it and move on. Although it’s tough doing so especially when you love someone with all your heart and you love then unconditionally. I will always love her, she gave me some of my best memories and I will always keep those memories in my heart.
When you love someone and she/he does not feel the same way about you, even though it’s a tough decision but you have to respect the other person’s decision and let her go. A song that best describes the feeling is Let her go by Passengers. In one part so the song it goes as follows:
Staring at the bottom of your glass
Hoping one day you’ll make a dream last
But dreams come slow and they go so fast
You see her when you close your eyes
Maybe one day you’ll understand why
Everything you touch surely dies
But you only need the light when it’s burning low
Only miss the sun when it starts to snow
Only know you love her when you let her go
Only know you’ve been high when you’re feeling low
Only hate the road when you’re missing’ home
Only know you love her when you let her go
Esihle Memani wrote a status on Facebook which is very inspirational, especially after going through a heart break. I copied it and saved it. I would love to end this book by sharing with you what she wrote; I hope that you will also be inspired. The status on Facebook was as follows:
*Don’t be afraid to get back up, to try again, to love again, to live again, and to dream again. Don’t let a hard lesson harden your heart. Life’s best lessons are often learned at the worst times and from the worst mistakes. There will be times when it seems like everything that could possibly go wrong is going wrong. And you might feel like you will be stuck in this rut forever, but you won’t. When you feel like quitting, remember that sometimes things have to go very wrong before they can be right. Sometimes you have to go through the worst, to arrive at your best.
The End