The secret venom of words

Freedom of expression has turned our world, our communities and homes into places where people express themselves anyhow, without considering how the next person feels about it. People have developed the tendency of speaking without thinking and giving the excuse that it is freedom of expression. Yes freedom of expression is good, but it does not allow one to disrespect others or how they feel.

The tongue is a small thing but on it lays the power to build or destroy. The words that come out of our mouths have the power to determine our growth or death because the maturity of a person is determined by the words that they speak. It is immature people who speak words that provoke other people without considering the damage to other people. Mature people speak words that build and encourage others.

Our words tell a lot about our characters and our thoughts. There is a lot of failure that has occurred because of an impact made by the words that we spoke. And if we can’t control our mouths we can even destroy the little things that we have. Our words can cause us to lose our loved ones, our families and our business partners.

There is no relationship that can be perfect if the communication between people is harsh. No one wants to build a relationship with a person who speaks words without life; someone who is so aggressive. There is always a good and acceptable way to present matters.

There are things that we did not achieve, not because we were not good enough but our words couldn’t keep us where our potential tried to lead us to. There are a lot of relationships that were destroyed due to words; you might not abuse a person physically but you can verbally. Words affect the feelings and feelings hurt more than an open wound. Words can destroy confidence and self-esteem and the inner being of a person; words can make you feel empty.

We are living in the world full of hatred and that started from words that were spoken. But if we controlled the words that came out of our mouths, our homes and communities wouldn’t be the way they are today. Racism and tribalism are one of the fruits of words said in anger. Today a father is against his son and a mother against her daughter because of words.

Sometimes we have to be careful with the words we use when we speak with our children. Children don’t easily forget, so mind your words when you speak. You can’t always live life by always saying “Sorry, forgive me”. You must also remember that words are seeds they might not have an effect today but tomorrow you might reap the fruits unexpectedly. First analyse your words and see if they are words to build or to destroy.

If you explode like a bomb you might create your own downfall and people might no longer associate with you. So let’s learn to beautify our lives with words and let’s help the helpless with our words. We might not have enough to give but the words that we speak can help. Our words can restore, our words can add hope; our words can change people’s lives.

Never allow your space and what you are going through to control how you speak. Sometimes we speak words of death simply because of our anger and we don’t mean them. The best way to avoid speaking bad words in anger is to move out of the space of the people who are making angry.

If you have any issue that eats you inside, speak it out but mind your words; think about the next person.

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Tell us: Have you ever said words out of anger? What were they and how were they received?