I am very cautious when it comes to relationships. I have seen how individuals pretend only to get away with whatever they want. But again as people we indeed create our own dilemmas. We keep on constantly changing. In situations where we need to account for mistakes we have done. We are unable to commit to what we say when we are happy, we want it all at once.

It’s easy to advise but hard to practice what you preach. Loving someone never gives you the right to control them and you can’t force anyone to love you the way you love them.

When I started dating multiple girls in high school I thought it was cool because it was all fun. I saw nothing wrong but the motive behind that I wanted to have the best amongst the best instead of choosing one and treating her the best.

Everyone had their opinions, others felt that I was heartless while others felt that I didn’t want to grow. I had no time to explain myself to people who were willing to misunderstanding me. I had this mentality of saying once you show a girl how much you love her, she starts performing. There’s no such. The problem is that we are used to controlling too much, we never want to give them time to express themselves.

Support is very vital, it makes one open and at times it becomes easy to unpack personal issues that you were unwilling to share. Sometimes I felt that I was born and never received guidance because most of the things I figured on my own no one was brave enough to channel me to the right path. I don’t want to blame anyone for the wrongs I did, they brought light into life.

You can’t please everyone even if you’re too good, not everyone will be happy to be around you. That’s how people are, if you are going to spend your time trying to please people and forgetting that you also have a life, you will end up regretting wasting your precious time. Learn to prioritize yourself before someone else. It’s better if they don’t understand you for making yourself happy.

You must understand yourself before trying to understand someone. Sometimes you will question yourself when the journey continues because all the things that you never thought will happen will start happening regularly.

You can find someone who you can connect with, who you can communicate with, who has it all in one. But you can still break up. We are in relationships with left over parts of people who once cared for people who cared too little. Somehow they are damaged and never healed. There was much building in me influencing and supporting the idea that relationships are there to distract our peace of mind.

Lessons were vital and changes were mandatory, even the decisions I took were affecting those who loved me but I had no choice. I have balanced people who don’t appreciate. I have reached the stage where hours can go by without talking to her and still not feel lost or incomplete because I never want to rely on something or someone as my source of happiness.

When some situations break you others build you, life goes on anyway.

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