We Should Never Blame Anyone

It has been said that we are the architects of our lives but teenagers nowadays have shifted our burdens and responsibilities to people. We seem to pride ourselves with this and wear it like a badge of honour. This badge seems to reflect on parents, friends, education and partners. We don’t realise that we need to take control of everything that transpires in our lives. We spend much of our time blaming our defaults, failures, unattained goals and opportunities. We blame our friends for not being there to tell us what we want to know than what we need to know.

Nowadays the education system seems to be a barrier and teenagers need to stop blaming it for not achieving their dreams.

As soon as you realise that you are the architect of your life, you’ll see the importance of doing things yourself.

Some of us are waiting for the education system to allow us to enhance our talents. We need to start taking action and doing it for ourselves. We have this tendency to blame people for not believing in our dreams. You have to believe in your dreams so that when people doubt, you know that your belief is enough to keep you going.

Napoleon Bonaparte said that, “If you want a thing done well, do it yourself. Blame yourself for expecting too much from people. Blame yourself for not giving your best in what you are doing. Blame yourself for not believing in yourself. Start blaming yourself for everything that goes wrong.”

You have control over everything in your life. It’s very important to start accepting that our life is our responsibility and no other person’s. It was Theodore Roosevelt who said, “Do what you can, with what you have, where you are”.

It’s not always where our expectation will be granted but it’s our responsibility to push ourselves one step closer. You don’t need to be great to get started, you need to get started in order to be great.

Use that small idea, use that small money, that tool, accessory and get going. Those small moves make a huge difference. Take control of your life and stop blaming people. You are the architect of your life.

It all starts with you.

We live in times where everyone seems to have expectations about certain people. We have fixated our focus on other people but we forget that it all starts with us! We want people to do things for us, we want to receive things from people without giving. We prefer receiving instead of giving. We point fingers at people for various reasons and at the end of the day, it reflects back on what you bring to the table.

We want people to love us but we don’t love ourselves, you can’t expect people to love you if you can’t love yourself. Love yourself enough that you don’t expect anything from anyone, self-love is important. We want people to believe in us but we lack self-belief. If you don’t believe in yourself, nobody can believe in you. Your dreams and goals can only be accomplished if you believe in them. Even if people don’t believe in you it’s still fine, but as long as you believe you can.

Most people would ask me to motivate them about something and I always say: “You are the author of your life, you know your weakness and strength, so that means you have the power to influence your life”.

If you don’t prepare your mind for yourself, then you’re wasting your time.

One hour of motivation will never change a mind-set that is rooted in negativity. Motivate yourself and someone will add on what you have already. Nobody can motivate you better than you can. In most recent times, most teenagers are struggling with the idea of appreciation.

Social media is the reason behind these low self-esteem issues that many teenagers are facing. We lack appreciation with regards to what we have and how we look. We all want people to tell us that we look beautiful and we have the best outfits in the world.

We go and post our pictures and expect 10 000 likes to upgrade our beauty standard. We measure our self-worth by the amount of likes we receive on social media, 100 likes will never be enough if you can’t appreciate yourself. If you can’t tell yourself or affirm to yourself that you look beautiful then 10 likes won’t do you better. Appreciate yourself enough that 10 likes does you nothing because you love yourself enough.

If you love yourself enough you won’t let 10 likes deem your light. Many teenagers are putting on a filter when taking a picture just to receive 100 likes, who said that a filtered picture reflects more of who you are!

That’s called downgrading your real identity.

I just wanted to touch on that issue a bit because people aren’t being themselves. Listen to this; you can’t expect anyone to embrace what you fail to embrace. Here’s the thing, respect yourself, have faith in yourself, trust yourself, make an affirmation to yourself and that’s the starting point to a non-expectation life. It all starts with you.


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