There are a lot of opinions on what a real man is. Yes, you can go to “ebakhwetheni” but you can still come back a boy. It doesn’t mean you didn’t do the necessary ceremonies in order to be a man, no. It just simply means you don’t do what a man does. A man doesn’t kill,a man doesn’t beat a woman up, a man doesn’t rape. Indoda yokwenyani iyalikhathalela ikhaya layo.A family cannot go hungry kube kukho umntu ozibiza ngendoda endlini. A child shouldn’t get scared when seeing you makayaz ukuba ubhuti uzandikhusela.Bila usoma ulwela ikhaya lakho.Umamakho makangakhali ngawe.