Anonymous

Female ejaculation: I knew it existed. I had read about it, even seen it on some dodgy late night sex show. None of this prepared me for it happening to me. I was freaked out. I was grossed out. Inspecting the ‘wet patch’, I was reassured that I hadn’t just peed myself—the liquid was clear and odourless. I was still freaked out. My partner was in awe of it—I think he found it fascinating and exotic.

To me, ejaculating feels completely different from a ‘standard’ orgasm (is there such a thing?). Whilst the latter is a hard, pulsing sensation, the former is more of a physical release—a warm giving-in to pleasure and of what your body is demanding of you. I prefer a normal orgasm, it’s more earth-shattering.

Is this purely because I’m not used to ejaculating yet? I’ve only ‘squirted’ a handful of times and it still shocks me. Researching the matter hasn’t really helped. There has been little research done on the subject and there are a myriad of different theories, descriptions and causes. Some claim it never happens, other dispute when it happens— during orgasm or before. Most of the information out there seems to be based on anecdotal testimony.

Indeed, considering how much research has been done and how well understood male ejaculation is, it’s shocking (but perhaps not surprising) that so little is known about the female version—especially in the highly sexed world we live in. Perhaps if more were known about it and it was talked about more, women like me wouldn’t be so freaked out when it happens.

Back to my experiences of it: I am completely in awe of my body’s ability to do such a thing, even though I don’t fully understand why and how. I think that I have some way to go before I can embrace it and enjoy it thoroughly. Thankfully I have a lifetime of sexual escapades ahead of me to find out!

The writer likes good books, chocolate and fruity white wine, preferably at the same time.