Remembrances are memories that will always be inside our heads as much as we will try to fight them. Surely we can overcome them, but looking at it realistically, they will always be there to remind us and at stay in our memory.

Moving on is often found to be hard in terms of thinking and reflecting on your past thoughts more and more. You can battle to move forward and just focus on the present cause, but you’ll keep getting those past thoughts as time goes on.

After the death of my mother, I struggled hard to move on at times, to accept that she’s not of this world any longer but she’s off in a better place. There is no day that she’s not on my mind. I can’t stop thinking about her; everything that we did together, our conversations, the laughter that we shared, how much she expressed her love to me. There is not a single day. I can’t stop thinking about her. And throughout all those years of knowing her, I keep remembering all the times we spent together. As much as it breaks my heart, I’ve accepted that it will forever be a memory, and I shall always keep remembering it.

What about you? Do you have that special someone in your life that you’re sure about, that even when death comes between you guys, you’ll always remember them? Or have you lost a deeply loved one like me? Sadly, you find it hard to move on without them in life in general? And how will you have peace of mind when you try to fight your feelings while also clinging to your memories?

Growing up in this world, I wouldn’t say I fit in. I never did. From my last year of primary to my full high school years, I had bad experiences in terms of fitting in places that I wanted to. I’ve always been an outcast. But sometimes in life, if things don’t happen for you, you go out of your way to make them happen, because you want them so desperately to happen. As much as you can try hard to fight something, it will always be a reflection of the real person that you are.

In other words, your image will never change simply to the person that you are, and there is nothing wrong with that. My childhood has filled me with moments of sadness and emptiness as much as I can remember. I never fit in or had many friends as desired when things didn’t go well. I would easily lose friends when nothing even happened between me and them. It was really sad for me as I’ve loved for years but never got the desires of my heart.

I finally came to make peace with the person that I am. I discovered more about the person that I am, and that I’m an introvert, and I’ve never made friends since. I’ve come to make peace with nature, that not all of them will be here to stay and there is nothing wrong with that. My childhood and how I grew hurts me. But I’ve come to discover that all of it will forever be in the past and kept as a remembrance, and I’ll keep remembering it as well.

How about you? Have you had a bad childhood without having the desires of your heart and how did you overcome that? What kept you going? What were your hopes and dreams?

When I failed to forget about my past, I would often lead on stressing and worrying. Such things would end up making me become moody, and semi-depressed, and it would end up changing my eating habit as well. What about you? Do you react the same way as I do? And if so, how do you overcome your reactions to be better again?

Being able to remember things is not a bad thing. The saddest experience is when they affect you enough to have the power to control your life, and you just can’t move on. This could lead one to do things they never thought that they would do. It’s bad, but it’s normal and in such situations, you should seek out professional help. To help yourself out and to help is the sweetest thing that could be done: making peace with what you face as a person. Mediation and exercising can help you as well.

Either way, I wish you all the best.

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