Too often, people and things are being misjudged because of the outward appearance in possession. It is forgotten that “behind every darkness, there is a light that is trying so hard to be seen”. The concept of misconstruing is practiced in every moment of our days. The least that could be done, is to take a deeper look; a person or thing could be solely different from one’s perspective point of view. Considering that this type of behavior is experienced in every moment of our lives.
People say “a book should never be judged by its cover”, though at the same time they judge a person by appearance. Carrying this kind of behavior to the working stations. Rewinding back to an era where women were seen best when performing domestic services. No women was seen as the leader back in the days, and why is that? Could it have been how they appeared in front of the male eyes? A woman would cook, give birth to her kids and raise them or probably go work in the gardens if not cleaning the house. A man will go work in the profession field, where he does office related work. Fast forwarding to the present, all of that has changed, women are also allowed to work in the profession, study and even overpower men in nowadays. Just because you have never seen someone do something, never for a moment think it’s because of the inability to do so, it’s just not the time for that to happen at that moment.
Take, by way of another example, Joshua, the son of the Buthelezi family in one of the societies. He was not much of a talker, spent his time contained in a corner somewhere alone. His siblings would tease him, and sometimes even say he was adopted. Time to time, Joshua really felt like an outsider, every time when he looks himself in a mirror, he would hear his sibling’s voices ringing in his head. He was too determined to let them get into him. He set his goals so high up that even if the ladder seemed to break, he never fell down. Joshua, the albino son of the Buthelezi family, it was hard for him to even play with other kids in the playground. Whenever he showed up to play with them, they would all scatter away, or if they were talking they would all go silent. He focused on his career, and he was the smartest in his family; he achieved his goals, and became a doctor.
Forming an opinion on someone, based purely on how they appear or on their skin color, is never telling the whole story lying behind that person’s surface. Gender or color of the skin can never determine one’s ability. Each and every person is capable of doing something, once they put their mind to it. If people don’t like you, that’s okay, not everyone has a similar taste anyway. Rushing to point out fingers and throwing judgements to people, is pointless unless you know them inside-out.
For once, in a life time, couldn’t we just expect as much as the other person expects from himself or herself. Instead of downgrading a person’s confidence, help to bring out the best in that person. Not everyone can deal positively with being judged for who they are; others will hide inside their shells forever, being afraid to try anything, and having fear of negative judgements coming from other people. You never know, one could be the reason behind every successful individual out there.